Susan Rardon
Rose, Ph.D.
Grief is a battlefield unlike any other. It can feel overwhelming, like a vast army pressing in from all sides, threatening to defeat us before we even begin to fight. The story of King Jehoshaphat in II Chronicles 20 reminds us that even when we feel utterly powerless in the face of our struggles, we are not without hope. It teaches us to lift our eyes from the chaos around us and fix them firmly on God. (I truly believe that is what has kept me afloat during these past four years. It had to be God leading, because most days it couldn't have been me. I was so lost in the fog of grief.) We can use these verses to teach us as well.
Jehoshaphat’s words, “We do not know what to do, but our eyes are on you,” reflect a powerful truth: admitting our powerlessness is not a sign of defeat but a posture of surrender. When grief overtakes us, it’s easy to feel lost, confused, or even abandoned. But as Judah did, we must bring our raw emotions to the Lord. Standing before Him with honesty and humility opens the door for His Spirit to work in us. Somedays, my prayer was just, "Jesus, please listen to the prayers of my heart, because I just don't have words to express this pain." He hears those cries!
In your moments of sorrow, let these words become your prayer. You may not have the strength to make sense of your pain, but you can choose to lift your gaze to the One who holds your heart in His hands.
As the people of Judah stood together—men, women, children, and little ones—God’s Spirit moved through Jahaziel, proclaiming His promise: “Do not be afraid or discouraged because of this vast army. For the battle is not yours, but God’s.”
Grief often tempts us to take matters into our own hands. We may try to suppress it, fight it, or control it in ways that leave us drained and defeated. But God calls us to stand still, to resist the urge to wrestle with forces beyond our understanding, and to listen for His guidance. The Lord may speak to us through His Word, through the comforting words of a friend, or through the quiet reassurance of His Spirit. In stillness, we find His peace.
“Take up your positions; stand firm and see the deliverance the Lord will give you.” These words remind us that God is our defender. The people of Judah were instructed to prepare for battle but not to fight. Instead, they were to stand firm and witness God’s deliverance.
In grief, we often feel we must “fight” to find healing. Yet healing is not something we achieve on our own; it is a gift that God works in us as we yield to Him. Our “position” in grief is one of trust, leaning into God’s promises and allowing Him to carry us through the storm. Trusting God doesn’t mean the journey will be easy or the pain will disappear overnight. But it does mean we are not alone. God is with us, leading us step by step, as we move from sorrow to hope.
“Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged. Go out to face them tomorrow, and the Lord will be with you.” Grief can paralyze us, making tomorrow feel impossible to face. But God’s presence goes before us, giving us the courage to take one small step at a time.
Each day we wake up is a victory, a reminder that God’s mercies are new every morning (Lamentations 3:22-23). And, each night is a reminder that we were victorious. Even if all we did was to be awake; we may not have even made it out of bed this day. Yet, we did make it through another day. Even if all we can do is stand, we stand in the strength He provides.
Grief is not a battle we fight alone, nor is it one we fight in our own strength. Like Jehoshaphat and the people of Judah, we are called to lift our eyes to God, trusting that He sees the end from the beginning and is working all things for our good.
If you are struggling today, know this: the battle is not yours, but God’s. Surrender your pain to Him, stand firm in His promises, and trust Him to guide you through the darkest valleys. He is your deliverer, your comforter, and your peace.
“Do not be afraid or discouraged…The Lord will be with you.”
I am a school counselor turned counselor educator, professor, and author helping educators and parents to build social, emotional, and academic growth in ALL kids! The school counseling blog delivers both advocacy as well as strategies to help you deliver your best school counseling program.
I'm a mother, grandmother, professor, author, and wife (I'll always be his). Until October 20, 2020, I lived with my husband, Robert (Bob) Rose, in Louisville, Ky. On that awful day of October 20,2020, my life profoundly changed, when this amazing man went on to Heaven. After Bob moved to Heaven, I embraced my love of writing as an outlet for grief. Hence, the Grief Blog is my attempt to share what I learned as a Counselor in education with what I am learning through this experience of walking this earth without him. My mission is to help those in grief move forward to see joy beyond this most painful time.
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