Susan Rardon
Rose, Ph.D.
Research supports that children will thrive if they have just one positive role model. Kids are not necessarily troublemakers. It’s just that the teenage years bring on that developmental stage where they are individuating from their parents. But, they still need that most important sense of belonging. They just need a place where they feel comfortable, connected, and welcome. They need a mentor, friend, or adult role model who believes in them and guides them to make positive life choices as a young person. You can use your role as the School Counselor and your School Counselor program to provide role models for your students that match the values of the professional learning community!
But, you can also be that support as the counselor. Tired, tense, and overextended counselors sometimes inadvertently fail at supporting their students in the way they need. Educators often give material favors or “empty praise” as expressions of support, yet the teen remains apathetic. Giving rewards doesn’t satisfy the question lurking deep inside, “Do my counselors and teachers really care about me?” and therefore fail to be the real support they require. We choose to spend time with people and activities that we love and bring us joy. If we rob our students of our time in lieu of material and financial objects, then they get the underlying message they are not valued and/or loved. Time is valuable, especially at this time of life when our teens are testing everyone’s love.
I am a school counselor turned counselor educator, professor, and author helping educators and parents to build social, emotional, and academic growth in ALL kids! The school counseling blog delivers both advocacy as well as strategies to help you deliver your best school counseling program.
I'm a mother, grandmother, professor, author, and wife (I'll always be his). Until October 20, 2020, I lived with my husband, Robert (Bob) Rose, in Louisville, Ky. On that awful day of October 20,2020, my life profoundly changed, when this amazing man went on to Heaven. After Bob moved to Heaven, I embraced my love of writing as an outlet for grief. Hence, the Grief Blog is my attempt to share what I learned as a Counselor in education with what I am learning through this experience of walking this earth without him. My mission is to help those in grief move forward to see joy beyond this most painful time.
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