Susan Rardon
Rose, Ph.D.
Welcome to Profoundly Changed. If you’re here, I can honestly say that I’m sorry for your loss. Grief is not a club that any of us want to join, yet it is both a blessing and a curse. It is a blessing because we don’t grieve unless we loved. Yet, the pain is usually as deep as the love and the relationship. With great love comes great grief.
I began this blog because my amazing husband moved to heaven on October 20, 2020. Like many, I married my husband because I couldn’t imagine my life without him. So, when I had to face life without my soulmate, it felt overwhelming!
In the days following my husband’s passing, I was struck by the sheer enormity of emotions. The memories of our shared moments—our laughter, the dreams we built together, the quiet moments of just being—flooded my mind. It felt like the world was dark without him in it. Yet, in the midst of the sorrow, I found myself clinging to the truth that the depth of my grief was a testament to the depth of our love. It’s a bittersweet realization that while the pain is profound, it’s because the love was extraordinary.
Starting this blog is a way for me to navigate the complexities of grief. Even though I knew from my studies in counseling the theory and character of grief, I had not expected it to overtake me. I think I had hoped that my education would protect me somehow. Yet, knowledge and emotion are two entirely separate entities. I now have to learn to marry the head to the heart. I have to wade through those waves—sometimes gentle ripples, and other times overwhelming tsunamis that knock you off your feet. I have to learn to sit with the grief, because I do know that one cannot run from grief.
Hence, writing has become my lifeline, a way to process the emotions, to remember my husband and honor his memory, and to connect with others who might be walking a similar path.
I hope that sharing our love story and my journey with grief may help others. Maybe you’ll find a piece of your own story in mine. Maybe you’ll feel a little less alone in your own grief. And maybe, just maybe, together we can find a way to carry our losses while still moving forward in life.
This space is not about finding quick fixes or easy answers. Grief isn’t something to “get over”; it’s something we learn to carry. Over time, the weight shifts. It doesn’t necessarily get lighter, but we grow stronger. We find ways to integrate our love and our loss into the tapestry of our lives. And as we do, we begin to see glimpses of hope, moments of joy, and the realization that while our loved ones may no longer walk beside us, they will always be a part of us.
Thank you for reading and for being here. Whether you’re just beginning your journey with grief or you’ve been walking this road for years, I hope you find comfort and connection here. You are not alone. Together, we can navigate this profound change and discover what it means to live and love again.
I am a school counselor turned counselor educator, professor, and author helping educators and parents to build social, emotional, and academic growth in ALL kids! The school counseling blog delivers both advocacy as well as strategies to help you deliver your best school counseling program.
I'm a mother, grandmother, professor, author, and wife (I'll always be his). Until October 20, 2020, I lived with my husband, Robert (Bob) Rose, in Louisville, Ky. On that awful day of October 20,2020, my life profoundly changed, when this amazing man went on to Heaven. After Bob moved to Heaven, I embraced my love of writing as an outlet for grief. Hence, the Grief Blog is my attempt to share what I learned as a Counselor in education with what I am learning through this experience of walking this earth without him. My mission is to help those in grief move forward to see joy beyond this most painful time.
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